“Why do we need to learn this?”
“You might want to build something someday.”
I had the opportunity today to talk to the grade eight class about self esteem.
When I did the first session I had a student hold a mason jar of water to show that our problems get heavier over time if we don’t deal with them. I also broke a ceramic jar and had a student glue it back together to show the cracks in our lives and how light can shine through. Today while I talked I had a student assemble a ‘Vision Board’ for the class. It was a lot of concepts to throw at the students in a short amount of time and I was so passionate I was hoarse afterwards! Hopefully the students will find some concepts to help them through emotional struggles. I tried to stress that integrity is the values and standards we find most important and then sticking to those standards. Our worth and self esteem does not have to be measured by culture’s standards but by the standards we have set by our values.
I created Loving Through the Anger as a reference for parents and teachers. It is a short version of things that have ‘stuck with me’ and really ‘struck a chord with me’ through the years of coming alongside children that struggle with strong emotions. Each reference given, points to so much more information. This is one of my passions right now. I truly believe that behaviour from a child is communication and our behaviour can communicate so much back to the child. There are times [weird, I know] when I am glad to catch moments of anger, etc. because these become teachable moments and times when I can congratulate self regulation and efforts towards self control. Of course, ask my own children if I always handle these issues ‘properly’…. on second thought, probably better not to ask my own children – just read the reference sheet instead.